Move into the world with power and connection

Allow your love and presence to move into the world with power and connection. Kathlyn Hendricks

Last weekend I had the honor to spend time with one of my mentors and shining role-model of Feminine leadership, Kathlyn Hendricks. Many of you know her from being one of the world experts on relationship and co-author of Conscious Loving (a must read). She is also an expert in whole body/whole brain transformation and when you meet her you can see why. Kathlyn moves into each moment and interaction with her whole body and being, and one can feel how she is truly authentic in her words and expressions.

Kathlyn is not a super human, she is simply a woman who lives her teaching, she is the fruit of her own practice.This means that we can all show up like that, not by copying her, but by being you, and being me, authentic and in integrity.

Integrity opens for a radical simplicity. It washes away all games and strategic manipulation, and leaves us with the stark naked, radiant truth.

Integrity is to be guided by deeper values than fleeting feelings of fear and greed. It is to speak the truth of your experience without layers of cause and effect. It is to keep agreements and to only make those you attend to keep.

One of the most powerful ways of integrity that Kathlyn has thought me, is to move from blame to wonder.

Blame narrows down your mind and heart, you become rigid and tense. Wonder opens, softens, and energizes you.

Move from blame to wonder – practice

Next time you notice that you have a feeling that is followed with a thought of changing or blaming another person or a circumstance, try this:

Direct you attention to your own body

Notice and locate the feeling as a sensation in the body. Move and breathe to give it space. Welcome it. Be with it with curiosity.

Now move your attention again to the person or situation that you were blaming, approach it with curiosity, with wonder. This is how life shows up right now, how interesting.

Notice how you feel now in your body.

Wonder allows you to stay present, to move into the experience instead of away from it.

The Awakening Women Way is not about lofty abstract concepts, we are called to show up, heart centered and real.

I am so happy that we can do it together

in clarity

Chameli

http://www.valerievandermeer.com Valerie

Beautiful message and practice expressed with great clarity. Much gratitude for this post and for your intentions and actions.
Kari Aamodt

Beautiful – I would so much have loved to come to one of your seminars/gatherings/retreats.
http://facebooK peggy starr

Wonderful practice shifting from other to self. This practice has made sense to me for some time now – to witness all beings & circumstance in my life as mirrors reflecting back to me, & yes, it is most often experienced in this body, an/or direct insight. Oh Ah Ha!

So happy to see more open discussion on this topic.
Bev

Thank you for this beautiful site. I enjoy reading your messages, it is nice to belong with like minded women here.
http://www.theawakeningcenter.com Rev Rhonda Smith

You are 100% correct. Blame is just a cop out to avoid taking responsibility for what you’ve chosen. Your exercise is a good one. I’ve used it for some time.
mia gomez

Gratitude is the open door to abundance.
Gretchen Gentry

Your blog is wonderful! Please keep it coming!
http://www.wildrosesauna.com Rosemary Bolivar

Blame is a means to place a challenge in a situation away from you, it is dis-owning the situation and rendering it hopeless.

Wonder is a choice to see the situation for what it is, call it by its name and seeing the growth and awakening into its clarity.
Lani Blythe

What a beautiful message! Wonder is something that I had so much as a child and I feel that I have lost. Thanks to your insight, I now have a way to reconnect.
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And when I am able to have compasssion for the other person its easier to have compassion with myself. All we need is love som lets love away the fear of connecting.
Love and respect from Lisa!
Ellie Davies

I’m always deeply touched by what you write – thank you for sharing this wonderful gift you have and for unknowingly coaching me to a fuller life! Bless you!
Therese

Simple and strong. A reminder for me again to dip into the sensitivity and be aware. This is the path to freedom Love to all sisters and brothers too
Pernilla

I just like to honour the power and the presence and the direction and the love in the messange, text, energy written. It´s so much..I can´t find the words…written with qualities and connection that my heart just say yes yes yes to, more or this. More or this! Yes. So thank you!!! For being that. Sharing that. Inspiring that.
Mikaela

Thank you!

This I will try, NOW, it comes at exactly the right moment.
I have been so frustrated lately about not accepting people and surroundings, felt more and more victimized by my judgemental inner part, resulting in feeling less and less space to move in.
This I will try, thank you, Chameli
I am so grateful for your clarity
inspiring me to clarity
awakeningwomen

Thank you so for your responses! Mikaela I would love to hear how it works:)
And Kari, if you ever get a chance to join any of our programs come to our annual retreat in Greece, it is the highlight of my year! We will soon offer more tele conference classes too, so that will make it easier to join
http://www.lifedancing.se Carina-Maria Caur

Dearest Chameli,

Thank you for bringing in WONDER as practise!
I love it, and it really works – fast!
Love you so much,

Carina-Maria
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My dear Chameli,

I am much in gratitude for your awakened awareness and your gifts in bringing it to the world.

Keep b-e-i-n-g GREAT, for the best that you are for yourself is the place best for those around you.

Love and Balance My Friend,

Crystal

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http://www.MySpace.com/ShamanHealing Kahshanna

There are so many beautiful transformational resources we women can access…positive thinking, meditation and exploring healing traditions are especially fruitful. I think ‘explore’ and ‘acknowledge’ are also impacting words that work well when surrendering accusations to tend to painful wounds. I have witnessed quite a bit of life…and at times women like me also experience much needed empowerment when they ‘call a spade a spade’, being honest about caregivers who were not in their right mind or authorities or religious figures who abused their power. The truth with people with deep life experiences is very deeply healing and being able to share that in a sacred space of support, openness and kindness is an invaluable opportunity.
Jill

Beautiful insights to use when we are confronted in a negative world. Use ourselves to “wonder” and transform reactions from negative to positive and more welcoming of others. We can utilize our own good feelings to others in an overwhelming sense of peace toward those with need for trust and compassion.
http://www.livingatchoice.co.uk Sam

Kali’s energy is indeed about the empowerment of the feminine. My experience is that once this energy is contacted within us and expressed with both passion and awareness, anything is possible. I love the Kali in me.
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Thanks for the exercise. When I located the tension spot in my body and breathed into it something miraculous happened and I started laughing. The thought came into my mind that was just a pocket of trapped light that needed to be released.
Innocent wonder is definitely the key.
Love you my Sister In awakening
http://www.hualani.org Hualani

Ahmen, Ahmen, Ahmen! Wonder is the open gate for love to move! May we all dance with destiny in the wonder of it all – ALL WAYS.

Blessings of love in Awakening Sisterhood;
Hualani
Francesca

This is just what I needed thank u.
Ulrike

thanks Chameli for sharing. I love this, so easy, so tender, so loving. It opened my heart while reading.. tears running over my face. Such a wonder that we can inspire each other so much. Thanks for your being. Love, Ulrike
awakeningwomen

Thank you so much for sharing this Ulrike, it means a lot to hear! Yes we are truly inspiring each other.
Mahana

ohhhh, for a moment i forgot….ahhhhh, now i remember (again…& maybe again…)
i’m standing in wonder…
love, gratitude Chameli, Kathy & the global sisterhood growing beyond imagination
http://twitter.com/awakeningwomen Chameli Ardagh

we will!!
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beautiful!
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I hope you will one day!
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Yes we are so blessed
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I love you, sister