Guest blog by DeAnna L’am
The story of Menarche, our first period, is rarely told. I find it interesting that women, who tend to share everything with one another, from first sexual encounters to stories of survival and recovery, are silent about this one.
We have come a long way as women. We became assertive. We broke through ‘glass ceilings.’ We combined careers with motherhood. We decided whether to become mothers or not. We can do it all, but do we enjoy the blueprint of our womanhood: our cycle?
I traveled a long way from seeing my period as a nuisance, to reclaiming it as my spiritual wellspring. Sharing the story of my first period, and holding space for women around the world to share theirs, is the essential ingredient in waking the Sleeping Beauty inside.
The adolescent girl you once were is left inside you, dormant and waiting to be welcomed into womanhood. You may be unaware of her presence, except you may have menstrual cramps, hate your periods, or see them as “nuisance,” “bother,” or “the curse.” Like Sleeping Beauty, she is waiting, but no Prince Charming is coming to wake her out of THIS sleep… This is an internal job. YOURS!
So where do you begin? As Einstein said: you can’t solve a problem from the same mindset that created it. Since the problem was created by rendering you invisible and ignoring your needs as a coming-of-age girl, the healing balm lies in being heard and witnessed.
Make time with one (or more) of your close women friends to tell the story of your first period. You will be astounded by the feelings of relief, comfort, and bonding that this simple act brings. Breaking the silence holds the key to your health and strength as a fully integrated woman. It also serves as the first stepping-stone to welcoming your daughter into womanhood.
Share your first period story with a close woman friend in your living room, in cafes, on park benches, or anywhere women get together to support one other through conversation. This is one step you can take today to start reclaiming the fullness of your “Woman Being!”
© 2009, DeAnna L’am, Red Moon ~ Cycles of Women’s Wisdom
DeAnna L’am (B.A.) speaker, coach, and trainer, is author of Becoming Peers – Mentoring Girls Into Womanhood. Her pioneering work has been transforming girls’ and women’s lives around the world for over 20 years. DeAnna specializes in enriching women’s lives at ANY age, inspires women to become empowering role-models for today’s girls, and and trains women to hold Red Tents in their communities.www.deannalam.com
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