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Can you leave the tempting hooks of drama dangling in thin air?


Living a life in a woman’s body you will, in any given moment,
have feelings.
Sometimes light and easy,
other times more rough and fiery,
and yes, everything in between.
It is unavoidable,
and in itself it is unproblematic.

In any of these infinite amount of moments when feelings arise,
there are people that seem to be linked to the feeling you are experiencing.
There will be situations that seem to cause your feelings,
memories that seem to creep in and create your present experience,
thoughts and stories that seem to demand your engagement.

At any given moment you will have available to you
an infinite number of hooks that you can hang your feeling onto.
Reasons, causes, stories that fit your feeling like a hand fits into a glove.

What if you paused for a moment, right here,
to consider the possibility that the feeling is 100% your responsibility?
And that the hooking of your feeling into the web of stories, 
causes, people,
situations, memories, 
fantastic or horrendous visions of the future,
is 100 % your choice.

What if it was possible to simply leave the tempting hook dangling,
to let the entire bundle of glorious reasons
fall to the ground.
To feel your feeling, as a sensation in the body.
To give it space.
To breathe in,
and out.
and out.

Standing here, willingly, in the space that opens up, 
in the vulnerability of the unknown,
intimate with all the feelings that are here floating in consciousness.

As if you, with all the tenderness in the universe,
scoop the feelings into the open space of your heart,
where they arise and dissolve out of the openness of who you truly are.
Free, always have been, always will be,
utterly free.

And what if you….when you in a moment will begin to interact with your day,
when you find yourself picking up a hook again,
that favorite story about a person that you know you can change,
that seemingly absolute necessity to defend against the
 unfair judgment a person projects onto you…

…what if you dare to face the price you pay each time you pick up
those stories you have gotten so used to.
That you in fact are willing to again and again 
trade in your freedom in your toxic marriage to blame.

What if it was 100% your choice to pick up the hooks again?

You may do it, the buffalo demon is stubborn,
but perhaps you will remember that this is not the only option,
and you can remind yourself of your choice:
Yes, I am picking up the hook, 
I have some more fascination here.

Or not.


(Chameli Ardagh)

Art by : Flora Aube




  1. Trish Dos santos says:

    I once passed this around my team at work as a thought for the day.

    “Feelings are like waves. You can’t stop them coming but you can choose which ones you want to surf.”

    1. awakeningwomen says:

      Beautiful and so true!

  2. awakeningwomen says:

    Love it!

  3. Banwen says:

    In my current youth years..I too have taken a load of hooks to the point of feeling like a loaded anchor. So within and so without…For the past 3 years I’ve tried detangling with the Divine Mother and Divine Beloved the knots of these hooks because I’m tried of drowning in despair…I’m tired of living from my ego and being burned time after time after time…And most of all I’m tired of weighing others down too….

    With Elizabeth I feel the choices of our childhood, both conscious and unconscious were our challenges we accepted in our innocence to work on over time. Yes, though, I feel and acknowledge the heft of trauma too…that so many even in their wise years are still facing, still toiling over, and much of the time they are afraid of letting the toil, the trauma go. Because they have assumed this suffering is their…punishment, their sin and their way of living and without it they are confused without this almost “comfort blanket” of activity. It’s like being on toxic drugs, or an adrenaline rush for most of your life and without this tension, this almost high they left in a void.

    Alot of times children adopt this from their parents going through this, thus it passes on from generations until someone(s) are conscious and are able to say “ENOUGH!” to the dramas themselves so the true healing and embodiment can begin.

  4. Aiswarya Preya says:

    Can you leave the tempting hooks of drama dangling in thin air?

    Just feel the feelings,
    just be the open sky,
    just drop the stories,
    just be free.

    Love this, thank you!!

  5. Elizabeth says:

    Ahhh…the knowing of truth…what peace. I release the need to take the hook in my mouth, unless I want to. It has always been my choice. Is that true? What about childhood choices?

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