I live in marriage beyond my wildest dreams. Not that it is always pink and frilly and happy-ever-after, no, it is utterly fulfilling for a whole other reason.
To fully show up in the face of others, in all our glory and all our darkness, is a courageous choice to make. The arena in which the depths of this challenge most reveals itself to us is perhaps that of our intimate relationships.
I was only sixteen the first time I made a desperate decision never to involve myself in a relationship again. I was determined to avoid the pain of a broken heart; I decided to be a nun. This lasted a month, until another prince came along and I was back on the merry-go-round of romantic highs and lows, happily oblivious to the errors of the past. Of course, I crashed again. And again.
My attempt to take the spiritual escape route was not very successful either. Although I enjoyed being alone and meditating, basking in silence, life constantly nudged me toward relating to other people. It became clear to me that I needed to find a way to merge relationship and spirituality instead of holding them as opposites.
Because most of our spiritual role models have been men who lived more or less reclusively, away from family and sexuality, it has been all too easy to conclude that we all should strive for a similar lifestyle to find spiritual freedom. Our attraction to relationship has been looked on as a weakness and a distraction.
Now that the awakening feminine is emerging in our lives again, we see a shift of paradigm. The feminine is naturally drawn to relating and to community and sees no intrinsic contradiction between spiritual realization and full involvement in life. On the contrary, it is in areas of relationship, sexuality, and family that she may find her deepest expression of the sacred.
Arjuna and I were, neither of us, well equipped for great relationship. We both come from broken homes and challenging backgrounds. Through constant practice and inquiry, we have stumbled upon a great “secret”.
When you can make this one major adjustment in your own life, whether you are single or in a couple, everything flows. Over the last years we have been able to test this secret out with thousands of people, and refine it and understand it more deeply.
We have, in our own way, also recognized why there can often be resistance to living this secret, and how to overcome that resistance.
I want to invite you to a teleclass this upcoming Thursday, where we will share all about it, but let me tell you this now: this way of relating is the bridge between your “inner life,” (meditation and yoga and your deepest realization), and your intimate relationships.
After sharing this with thousands of people in live retreats, we have spent the last nine months developing a retreat-at-home that couples and singles can do without going out of the house. We have created CDs and DVDs, a 150 page workbook, conducted video interviews with dozens of couples who are living in this way… in fact every resource we could think of to make this secret easy to live.
This weekend the last touches got added, the last glitches got ironed out, and now, on Valentines Day 2011, it is all ready!!
Please join us to celebrate the launch of everything we have been preparing over the last 9 months! We want to warmly invite you to our virtual launch party on the phone on Thursday February 17th at 6pm PST. (register and you can listen to the recording later)
We are going to tell you exactly what this untold secret is, and how to live it. We are going to share with you everything about this new gift we have been working on, and we are going to tell you how you can explore everything we have created at home, with no financial risk.
Have a deep and fulfilling DAY of LOVE!